Monday, April 26, 2010

Give "Date Night" A Chance

"Date Night," directed by Shawn Levy ("Night at the Museum" and its sequel), is proof that casting can make all the difference. The plot isn’t complicated, in fact it’s somewhat predictable and preposterous, but the comedic sense and timing of its stars make it entertaining and funny.

Steve Carrell and Tina Fey play Phil and Claire Foster, who describe themselves as just another boring couple from New Jersey. They’re so exhausted from juggling two jobs and two kids that they prefer sleep to their usual date night out. Their date consists of the same dinner at the same restaurant while making fun of other couples (improv fodder for Carrell and Fey). This doesn’t bother the Fosters until their friends (played by Mark Ruffalo and Kristen Wiig) shock them with the news that they are divorcing.

Suddenly the Fosters are inspired to do something different. They dress up and head into New York City to visit one of the hottest new seafood restaurants, "The Claw, you’re welcome” is how they answer the phones. But the Fosters don’t have a reservation.

They wait at the bar for a call that won’t come until Phil decides to respond to a call for “Tripplehorn, party of two,” an apparent no-show. And that’s when their date night troubles begin.

The Fosters enjoy their evening as the Tripplehorns until a case of mistaken identity drags them into the middle of a blackmailing scheme gone wrong. This involves crooked cops, a well-known mob boss (played by Ray Liotta) and the District Attorney (William Fichtner) who has a weakness for strip clubs.  This leads the Fosters on an all-night trek around the city in search of the real Tripplehorns and the flash drive everyone is demanding be returned.

"Date Night" sounds over the top and wacky (which it is!), but it is somehow grounded by its stars who share the straight man role to the rest of the film’s crazy characters. Carrell and Fey are natural as husband and wife. Perhaps it’s because they’re married to the same network (NBC), with their own TV shows—"The Office" and "30 Rock"—airing within the same hour. Or it’s because they both come from similar comedic and writing backgrounds.

Fey is the former head writer and cast member of "Saturday Night Live" and although Carrell was never on "SNL" (he auditioned, but was never cast), his comedic roots parallel Fey’s. Before he was writing and acting in films, Carrell wrote and starred in Dana Carvey’s ("SNL" veteran) short-lived comedy sketch show on ABC and was a reoccurring reporter on Comedy Central’s "The Daily Show with Jon Stewart." Both Carrell and Fey successfully juggle family with busy careers in TV and film.

Phil Foster is wiser than Carrell’s other alter ego, Michael Scott, but is just as goofy when he’s in a tight spot. Claire is exactly like Fey's "30 Rock" character, Liz Lemon, if Liz found a husband, quit showbiz, and moved to the suburbs to sell real estate. Fey consistently casts herself as the witty, strong female type, which she portrays in "Date Night," and I hope she never stops playing this role.

It is clear both Carrell and Fey bring their own style to their characters once the end-of-the-film credit outtakes roll. Their style is what makes you willing to embark on this farcical adventure to get home safely to the kids.

Some of the funniest scenes include well-casted cameos. The best one is a toss up. When the Fosters need help, Claire remembers a former client who is a security expert that lives in the city. Phil quickly finds out why her memory is so good—Mark Walhberg plays a very buff and shirtless Grant Holbrooke. And then there’s the real “Tripplehorns”—clueless, petty thieves—played by James Franco and Mila Kunis who show the Fosters what passion is. One minute they’re bickering over how to properly blackmail someone and the next?

The dialogue is funnier than the action although it has one of the funniest strip pole dances I’ve ever seen. While I’m sure Carrell and Fey contributed bits here and there with their improv styles, the credit should go to writer Josh Klausner.   Klausner wrote for all four installments of the Shrek films ("Shrek Forever After" comes out this summer), which also explains the film’s rapid fire jokes.

So what’s the lesson? Call ahead when dining out.

But seriously, this movie is most amusing for married couples.  It’s not your traditional boy meets girl romantic comedy. In fact it’s more action than romance.  It finds the humor in marriage’s obstacles and how trust and compromise are crucial for a couple’s survival. It’s the difference between making it work or realizing you’re just “really great roommates” as the Foster’s friends discovered. This comedy's message may be relevant given the on-going media attention to famous couple breakups. (Sandra and Tiger and Larry—oh my!)

"Date Night" is a refreshingly short 88 minutes. It’s rated PG-13 for some language and sexual content—it manages to fit in the one F-bomb permitted with this rating. I guess that’s information that should have been shared with the parents who brought along their talkative toddlers to the theater. It’s not a family film.

I really enjoyed this film, but you might wait for it to come out on DVD. That or call the babysitter so you can see this comical adventure with your spouse or significant other alone. Either way, you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

Friday, April 16, 2010

Outing the Introverted Me

I felt unusually warm on that chilly, November morning when my Elon 101 adviser happily announced we would discuss the results of our Myers-Briggs personality tests together. Reactions in this college freshmen orientation class were mostly shrugs of indifference. Whatever. Except for me. I wanted to jump up out of my seat and shout, “Noooooo!”

But I wouldn't have done that. It's just not me.

I spent the semester listening to my peers’ tales of messy roommates who stay up too late and teachers who give unfair assignments. I shared stories of my own night-owl roomie despite my initial hesitation. I became talkative. We all shared our new student anxieties, outrage and laughs.

I felt accepted by the group, but now I feared Myers-Briggs, via my adviser, was going to label me as “shy” for another four years. You’re either an “E” for extrovert or the dreaded “I” for introvert. I knew I was no “E” and I blamed this for previous social troubles.

My classmates passed the handouts around the too-large-for-the-tiny-room table. My adviser’s instructions were muffled by the shuffle of papers along the mutter of my inner critic who was scolding me for answering the test questions so candidly the week before. I scanned the handout, which listed each personality trait description. I needed to know what words would be used to describe me.

We would start with the introverts, my adviser continued. I glanced around the table so I could capture my classmates naive expressions. Maybe some of them will be introverted too, I thought. My adviser squinted at the test chart he held in his hand as if he had he had lost his place—I hoped. There was a long pause.

In anticipation, I lowered my head to rub my right temple as if a genie would spring forth to grant me three wishes. I only needed one.

“Huh,” my adviser said in a curious tone.

To everyone’s surprise I was revealed as the lone introvert in a class of 15. My heart sank. Not a single person with whom I could exchange an understanding nod. I was on my own again. I smiled and shrugged while I stirred and secretly hated my adviser for “outing” the inner me.

I was ashamed to be an introvert, but I was wrong to feel this way. After 10 years and one book—"The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extroverted World" by Marti Olsen Laney, PsyD (also an introvert)—I see it more clearly now.

Typically, only one out of every four people is introverted. There are advantages and disadvantages to both personality types, yet extroverted strengths are more valued because they make up the majority. They set the social standards. This makes introverts feel like they must conform to extroverted expectations, but you can’t change who you are.

And believe me, I’ve tried.

Introverts’ brains have more internal activity. They’re constantly on brain-overload so they look for ways to lessen stimulation because too much drains their energy. Extroverts are always searching for more information, which energizes them—too little activity leaves them tapped and tired. This as a major influence on how both types behave.

In high school, I was an occasional no-show during off-period gatherings in the school library and my friends would ask me about where I had been. I’d make some flimsy excuse because they were suspicious and seemed to think I was avoiding them, but I really wasn’t. I just needed some time alone.

I walked the empty halls in search of a quiet spot to work. The cafeteria was crowded with loud chatter and the occasional airborne French fry. The library was filled with whispers, shushes and giggles that lead to the librarian yelling. So I would slip away to the corner of an empty classroom.

I’d plow right through my homework with no distractions to slow me down. Then I’d just reflect, staring at the dusty chalkboard with the scribbling of lessons only partially erased. The fluorescent lights hummed to a distant voice whose lecture was just rhythmic white noise. Exhale.

During class, whenever a teacher asked me a question on the spot, my mind would race, but would instantly come up blank. I would freeze then feel humiliated and frustrated that I was so slow to respond. I would inevitably give an answer without confidence because I was unsure of my answer because I hadn't had enough time to think it through. Answers always seemed more obvious when the focus was on someone else and the class had moved on. I couldn't understand why it was so difficult. Not only do introverts need an extra moment to think, but being thrust into the spotlight makes us very uncomfortable.

This common introvert trait is often mistaken for bewilderment because extroverts think and vocalize answers so quickly. I thought my inability to think faster made me less intelligent. Introverts actually have better memory, but it takes longer to retrieve because our brains send signals on a long brain pathway. Extroverts use a short brain pathway, so their answers are always locked and loaded while we introverts are still processing.

There's another misconception that all introverts must be shy. Shyness is a social anxiety developed out of bad social experiences. It's a reflection of distrust or lack of confidence. An introvert can be shy, but it does not require it. Extroverts can be shy too, which is worse since they need more interaction to feel good.

We introverts have fewer friends. We don't make the same effort extroverts do with acquaintances who are potential new friends. Whether the extrovert makes friends or not, they still get the energizer they need. I value focused interaction and find socializing in large groups to be exhausting. So I have to conserve time spent so I don’t burn out. I talk plenty with people I know really well, but struggle with social chitchat.

Most introverts are taught they should aspire to be more like extroverts so they feel self-conscious about their natural inclinations. At a young age I was labeled as “shy” because I internalized my thoughts more than others. Eventually, I did become shy. I had gotten so use to the idea that this wasn’t "the norm" and thought people didn't like me because of it. Friends felt the need to address it all the time. I was often excluded, which was more likely a matter of being overlooked because I didn't demand as much attention.

Stuart Smalley, Al Franken's self-help character from his days on "Saturday Night Live," used to look in the mirror and calmly say, "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough and dog-gone-it, people like me."  Maybe that's something I should have done! Though Franken was poking fun, and probably not an introvert, he created a good chant for us when extroverted expectations come pouring down.

People should appreciate introverts for what they have to offer. Just think about what qualities colleges and employers seek out more introverts are at a total disadvantage. There are many situations that would benefit from introvert perspective, but it's often lost due to the volume of extroverts who speak over them.

Introverts are good planners. We weigh all the options before reacting. We're more self-aware. What we lack in conversation we make up for in writing. We're better listeners. Who do extroverts think is listening to them all the time? Not other extroverts.  Numerous conflicts may be the result of not understanding these differences.

You don’t have to be introverted to look back on your adolescence and cringe at those socially awkward moments, but it helps. I only wish I hadn’t let people’s misunderstanding of me confine me to “shy” for so long. The majority makes the rules, but neither introverts nor extroverts are right or wrong—just different.

My Elon 101 class didn’t treat me differently as I had feared they would. I had already won their hearts. Knowing what made me tick didn’t scare them away because I was comfortable and true to myself. In my mind, I had succeeded in "fooling" everyone by acting like an extrovert, but really, it was all introverted me.

What felt like a lifetime of focus on me and my introverted traits in class was probably only a matter of minutes. Then we moved on. We continued to talk and laugh as we always had. No harm, no foul. I realized it was a fresh start. It was a chance for me to see that I didn't have to be defined as shy so long as I embraced introversion for what it really was and kept doing what I was doing— being my thoughtful and friendly self. I learned, just like Laney, that understanding who I am is the key to confidence. No more hiding.

I didn't make any long-term friendships from that class, but that's OK. It was all about helping each other make a difficult transition to new-found independence.

And to my former adviser: all is forgiven.

Sunday, April 4, 2010

"Food Revolution" Does It Right

I'm totally hooked after the first couple of episodes of "Jamie Oliver's Food Revolution." Not just because of Oliver's passion and penchant for annoying stubborn lunch ladies, but because Oliver is doing what so many aren't willing to do— educate.

This reality show follows British chef Jamie Oliver as he sets out to change the nation's eating habits starting in Huntington, W. Va., which has been called the unhealthiest city in the country. He wants to convince U.S. schools to prepare meals using fresh ingredients and eliminate the use of processed food. He wants to change the way people think about food and get them to make better choices. His hope is to start reducing childhood obesity, which is a major problem in the U.S. (see my previous blog).

Oliver beats his head up against a wall trying. From the lunch ladies who don't think change is reasonable  to the administration's red tape, Oliver proves that changing the way Americans think about food is hard work. Especially when guidelines for what constitutes "healthy" is clearly out of date.

How does a fried chicken sandwich and fries pass as healthy? And veggie stir fry with fruit jello fail? Apparently fries and the optional salad cover the veggie requirement and the stir fry veggies are too small of a portion. It's frustrating to watch Oliver fight what appears to be common sense, but he's so committed. "Food Revolution" is clearly Oliver's "baby."

One Huntington elementary school allows Oliver to observe and cook meals by his design for one week. All his tricks and skills bounce right off the kids who just want to eat pizza and the staff who have little money or policy backing to do otherwise.

Oliver tries to break kiddies' bad food perceptions, which would be funny if it weren't so scary. He gathers a group to demonstrate what goes in those yummy chicken nuggets they love, which of course, is meant to be a total gross out.

He takes what's left off a chicken (after the meat you're supposed to eat is cut off) and grinds it up together just like the manufacturers do.  This includes bones, tissue and whatever little scrapings of meat left over that you would assume goes in the trash . Not true.  Cue the eeeeewwwww.

Oliver sifts it all into a meat paste, which he shapes, tosses in bread crumbs and then throws it in the fryer. As it sizzles away, he victoriously inquires, who's ready to eat? His question is answered with raised hands and curious faces, volunteering as eager taste testers.

"I'll eat anything. I'm just hungry," replies one excited little girl. Oliver looks like a deer caught in the headlights who might be eaten afterward.

Yep, kids will eat anything. Except the stuff that's crucial for their health. And parents aren't helping. They pass on their own bad habits and don't make themselves aware of the school's food choices.

Oliver reaches out to help change the habits of one family where each member is overweight, if not already obese. He raids the cabinets and refrigerator, finding product after product of high-calorie, highly processed junk. Freezer packed with frozen pizza. Veggies scarcely found. Empty fast-food cup on a living room table.

This may sound like a judgement—wagging finger and all—of Huntington, but Oliver is careful to explain that's not his intention. It's a reflection of the entire country and includes his own (United Kingtom) in that message. He often speaks highly of the people and the Huntington area admitting that he just wants to make a change. And what better place to start than the one marked as impossible? Oliver's hope is a victory in the unhealthiest place will show the rest they can follow.

To be fair to Huntington's initial stubbornness, they felt attacked. No one likes to hear criticism from an outsider, a British celebrity chef, who's there to "fix" you although not Oliver's words. It's natural to push back. The city is located in one of the country's poorest states so it's easy to see how people may feel someone like Oliver is out of touch with their real circumstances. It's a fact. People don't like change.

But Oliver is sincere about wanting to give people the tools to make manageable changes for the sake of their health. As a parent, he is frustrated and gets teary-eyed at the sight of what has become the status quo of food for the first generation of kids who run the risk of living shorter lives than their parents. The elementary school he visits doesn't even serve food that should be eaten with a knife and fork because they have none. The cameras show the combativeness of school administration and staff, but are good to reveal that it's not always careless disregard, but lack of funding to provide better.A clear statement on what kind of food the kids are getting.

I was thrilled that the show addressed realistic issues such as budgets, or lack thereof, and forced Oliver to come up with tangible solutions for how to pursue his goal. How refreshing-- a reality show that actually deals with reality.

As a native West Virginian and former overweight person, I think this is a cause worth watching and backing. I had no idea how bad school meals had gotten. The parents Oliver reaches out to were oblivious. I am happy to see someone be ambitious enough to tackle this issue through education and inspiration.

I hope Huntington proves you don't need laws to make positive change because they will choose it themselves. It won't be easy, but if they're able to do it, there's hope for everyone else. I can't wait to watch more of this mini-series on ABC airing Fridays at 9 p.m.